If Only

If Only

But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. – 1 Timothy 6:6-8 ESV

“If only” are 2 dangerous words. Here’s how “If only” might express itself:

“If only I had more money.”

“If only my spouse would act like…”

“If only we had a different house.”

“If only I didn’t come from such a wounded past.”

“If only I wasn’t stuck in this place.”

“If only I was free of this disease.”

“If only I didn’t struggle with this.”

The problem with these statements is that it leads to self-pity. We make our lives centered around fulfilling our desires that might not even the best for us.  The reality is that even if the desire for one “if only” is met, we will just have another one to add to the list.

Often times, I fall into this mindset trap, and it makes me depressed. I am then quickly reminded that God knows what is the best for me, more than I do because He loves us more than we love ourselves.

  • And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28 ESV
  • Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. – Romans 12:2 ESV
  • And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19 ESV

Instead of using “if only,” we should be using the “even if”.

Even if things are not going well, even if I do not have any money, even if God does not deliver us from this disease, even if my past is full of pains, even if my spouse does not act like how I want, I trust in you Lord.